Who are you?

Mirrors -
Many people have mirrors in their homes– infact only particularly odd people don’t. But how often do we ever bother to look at ourselves?

I am reminded of [pretty much every lame pop song in the last 20 years] that has a lyric along the lines of “I don’t recognise my own reflection” – but when do we? How many of us know exactly what we look like – this in turn reminds me of the dilbert comic sketch when the man test was to ask someone what they are wearing, and a man would have to check. But then again what we look like doesn’t matter that much – because what other people look like doesn’t matter either.

[[aside: Ok so for some people there is a range of attractiveness that above means you’ll want to ask them out and below means you might offer them a shower, so yes it does matter – to some extent, but really your closest friend is not your closest friend because of how they look – and to be honest with most relationships, while initial attraction played its part – if there was nothing else it doesn’t last. ]]

So how would you describe yourself when you look in a mirror? After the initial physical description is over you may use words like ‘funny’ or ‘smart’ – maybe you’ve been watching the apprentice and you’ll start using hyperbole like “a go getter” “I don’t fit the mould” etc.

However – take a few moments to ask yourself:

• Who are you? -keep asking this after each answer you give, keep asking until you don’t know what else to say

• What do you want?

• Where are you going?

• Do you have anything worth dying for? – most people who love can think of something but.. then the next question:

• Do you have anything worth living for? – can you justify why?

From a Christian perspective it seems at first glance like those questions are wrong – we know that no one has greater love than to lay down their life for another, however do not forget that Jesus came back – alive – and gave the apostles work to be done – alive – not just time filling until they can get martyred. So what do you have/do that is worth living for?

[yes I did just steal those questions from Babylon 5, but that doesn’t make them less striking]


I was recently forced to face the veritas of who I am, and the answer did not surprise me and did surprise me all at once. I will change with time no doubt, but then that just emphasises the importance of the question: ‘Where are you going?’
The whole world around us is changing everyday, and we change with it, - as the fictional Rev Dexter said “I'll tell you something my friends. The world is changing every day, the only question is who's doing it." – and hence I’d say “you are changing every day, the only question is who’s changing you.”
make sure you are choosing how you’ll change.